There really is an app for everything now. The current trend is for us to track our waking day (and night). We can monitor our walking and running distances, heart rate, resting pulse, blood pressure, calorie intake and sleep cycles. Some apps will even pop up tell you whether you are meeting your goals - whether you want to hear it or not!
If you are going through a divorce or separating then it's a given that you and your former partner will be going through a turbulent time both emotionally and physically. It is therefore extremely important that you make choices which don't exacerbate those already difficult feelings.
The choices you have are to agree what arrangements should be upon your separation with your partner directly, through the courts or via dispute resolution options such as mediation. Here are examples of what your fitness tracker could be telling you if it were able to monitor your divorce or separation.
Divorce or separation - through the courts
Communication - this is becoming extremely difficult and communication with your partner is now via correspondence through your solicitor
Time - court proceedings last months, even years.
Emotional health - litigation is adversarial. Adversaries are a person, group, or force that opposes or attacks; opponent; enemy; foe. Your emotional health is under attack.
Sleep - disturbed with thoughts over the court process.
Stress - you must meet court deadlines, complete statements, pay your solicitor, attend court.
Expense - can you afford to pay your solicitor and barrister?
Control - this belongs to the court who is the ultimate decision maker.
Smart coach tips - adopt an approach where you can engage with your former partner meaningfully, save money, make decisions jointly, take control of your future. Try dispute resolution.
Divorce or separation - via Mediation
Communication - this is facilitated at meetings with your partner and mediator. This is not easy but all your discussions are held in a safe and managed environment.
Time - agreement can be reached according to your timetable.
Emotional health - still impacted by divorce or separation though you now have a safe arena to address your concerns.
Sleep - disturbed with thoughts over mediation. Eased after your first session.
Stress - you are still stressed but have ultimate control over how progress should be made, thereby easing stress.
Expense - mediation compared to litigation is considerably cheaper.
Control - this belongs to you.
Smart coach tips - continue to engage in mediation in an open manner. You will save money, have control over your future and engage with it positively.