How a loom band saved mediation - #lifelongparenting
November 21, 2014
Last month I was involved in a very difficult mediation session. Both participants were struggling to be forward facing and found it easier to revert to the longstanding, well-trodden and familiar path of conflict. An agreement as to the best arrangements for their children seemed some way off.
Then the most unexpected deflection from conflict occurred. I reached out to grab some papers and my loom band, lovingly made by my son, popped out from below my cuff. This caught the eye of one of the participants who immediately smiled and commented on it. She then showed me the loom band she was wearing. Her husband followed suit and it transpired that they were both wearing identical loom bands made by their children. They discussed when they were given them and how they enjoyed making them with their children
The change in the room was palpable and immediately deflated the obvious pervasive tension and conflict. Both participants were finally talking about their children without agenda and had a common theme – their love for their children. The session thereafter was plain sailing and they were both able to reach an agreement as to the best arrangements for their children.
Everyone has to remember why they are in mediation – I just never thought it would take a loom band to be that reminder!