We see signs every day. Some are clear, some are not. Some mean what they say, others have a hidden meaning.
No Parking – Garage in constant use. This translates - “could people please stop parking here!”
Caution – Hot water from this tap. This translates – “we all know that water from the hot tap will be, well …hot but don’t sue me if it is really hot.”
Fully air conditioned restaurant. This translates – “please come into our lovely restaurant which, if you weren’t persuaded by the menu, is air conditioned.” (never a huge selling point)
This translates, you may or may not have done something wrong but I am certainly not available to you now.
As human beings we tend to do the same thing. We put up signs and give off signals that more often than not have layers which can easily be misinterpreted by others. This may only get worse during separation.
If you take your family dispute to court then the ability to read, explore or address the signs that we choose to put up fall away – the court will impose a solution in accordance with statute, case law and the facts of your case. If you choose mediation to attempt to resolve your family dispute it provides the forum for you and your mediator to resolve what the real human issue is rather than have a court imposed solution. Once these issues are aired it generally paves the way for constructive agreement as to the way forward for your individual family and its needs rather than “the facts of your case.”